‘There is very little difference between people. That difference is
attitude. The big difference is whether it’s positive or negative’.
Attitude is the number one prerequisite for success in any aspect
of your life.In order to create and sustain a positive mental attitude
apply the following strategies liberally and continually.
1.Become a “Conscious Choice Maker”.
‘Choice, not chance, determines destiny’. Montaigne.
When you think about it you always have a choice. In fact, from the
second you wake up in the morning you are involved in one series
of choices after another.
You may choose to:
Get up or press the snooze button.
Dress up or dress down.
Eat porridge or eat four rashers or both.
Be in great form or be in a snot and so on.
The strategy is to become aware or conscious of the choices you are
making because, like it or not, ACTING or NOT ACTING is always a
‘Buy a tracksuit’. Pat Coakley
Think about it. There is a muscle in your chest cavity that is working for
you every second, of every minute, of every hour, of every day.
It is called you r heart and it has an enormous impact on your state of
mind. By exercising consistently for 30 minutes a day I can guarantee,
that within as little as 6 weeks, you will:
Get on with Others Better
Once again however it reverts to Strategy 1. It’s your choice. And I heard
Padraig O’Ceidigh once say that “the things that are easy to do are also
easy not to do”.
3.Get Around a Tough Crowd.
‘You are the average of the five or six people that you are surrounded
by most of the time’. Jim Rohn
David McClelland of Harvard, author of “The Achieving Society”, observed
that “the major difference between success and failure in life is your choice
of a reference group”. And although he’d never been to Harvard, my late
uncle Stiofáin would often, remark that “aithnionn ciarog ciarog eile”.
(Loosely translated, Birds of a Feather Flock Together)
The choice therefore is to audit the energy impact of those you are
surrounded by. You may wish to choose between those who:
See Problems V See Solutions
Put Down V Uplift
Discourage V Encourage
Talk V Do
Lose V Win
Patronise V Give Feedback
Bring out your worst V Bring out your best
Toxic V Inspiring
4. Get a GPS for your life.
‘There’s no point going faster if you’re going in the wrong direction’.
Several years ago a boat load of us departed the docks in Galway
Bay en route to Inis Mor, the largest of the Aran Islands. It was a
beautiful clear day to begin with, the panoramic coastline of the
Burren to Port, and Connemara to Starboard, guided our journey
majestically. That was until we were suddenly enveloped in a thick,
mucous fog with visibility down to twenty metres.
I can’t begin to tell you how scary it is to have your positional
reference points taken from you. It leaves you disorientated,
frightened and lost.
Fortunately I had a small handheld GPS (Global Positional System)
which, when switched on, was able to tell me exactly where I was,
where Kilronan Pier was; and what route I needed to take, even in
We need equally a GPS for our journey through life which will
give you information on:
a) Where are you going to?
b) Where are you now?
5. Get Organised.
‘If you fail to plan you plan to fail.’ Pat McDonagh said this long
before Roy Keane ever did and has practised it throughout his
business career with astonishing results.
Getting Organised gives you a sense of control. Energy comes from
purpose. In order to get organised:
a) Use one system to record details regarding your time
b) Begin with the end in mind with:
· Your Day
· Your Week
· Your Month
· Your Year
· Your Life
· Your Projects
· Your Meeting
c) Clear Clutter Continuously
d) Have the Smácht to follow through on what you commit to.
e) Start and Finish jobs.
6. Mind Your Language.
‘He won’t be with us long at all’. Caring Nurse to Devastated family.
Word can kill and words can cure. I can tell your state of mind in
minutes by the words you use. By the same token, I can influence
your state of mind within seconds by the words I use. Consider the
following responses to the simple question “How are you?”
· Not too bad
· Stressed out
· Hanging in there
Compare them to:
· Fit as a fiddle
· Never better
· 100 %
Begin to choose consciously your words. Replace mediocre words
with intensified words. Experiment by transforming:
Good to Great
Happy to Ecstatic
Interesting to Captivating
Motivated to Driven to
No Problem to Happy to
Strong to Invincible
Say to yourself quietly “I hope 2012 will be a great year”. Now compare
the feeling when you say to yourself “I expect 2012 to be a great year”.
Was there a difference in emotional intensity?
Has anyone ever told you you’ve lost weight; put on weight; look pale;
look great etc. Bet they’ve influenced your attitude.
Back in 1909, a French pharmacist called Emile Coue, experimented with
giving patients a “placebo” to cure their ailment. The results were
astounding. You too are a placebo to your customers, your team,
your family and YOURSELF.
“Simply by changing your habitual vocabulary – the words you
consistently use to describe the emotions of your life – you can
instantaneously change how you think, how you eel and how
Learn a Process for Dealing with Worry and Solving Problems.
‘Do the thing you fear and the death of fear is certain’.
Ralph Waldo Emerson
To paraphrase General Patton “worry kills more people than death ever
does”. I presume he meant death kills us but once whereas worry can
kill us over and over again.
In his wonderful book “How to Stop Worrying and Start Living” Dale
Carregie espoused the great value in getting your worries written
(or typed) down. In his opinion, most worry was caused by confusion,
lack of clarity, incomplete facts and a failure to face up squarely to
your worries. The following is a series of questions you will find
invaluable in creating peace of mind in your life.
a) What am I worried about? (write it down)
b) What are the facts – what are the odds of it happening?
c) What is the worst that can happen?
d) Can I handle it?
e) What can I do about it?
f) What will I do about it?
And staying with a military perspective, my father-in-law, Pat Carroll,
often quotes Lincolns advice to a young General who was surrounded
on all sides by the enemy. His council to the General was “Do what you
can, with what you have, where you are”. I think you can apply this
philosophy to any extenuating circumstances in your life.
8. Learn from Weight Watchers
‘What get’s measured get’s done’ JJ Demmings.
I am really impressed by the business Weight Watchers. They solve a
massive (no pun intended) need; they are extremely profitable; and the
process works. What’s special about their process? They make you
accountable and answerable to measuring you own success (or lack of it)
consistently i.e. they weigh you every week whether you’ve been binging
It’s not pretty, but it works. If you are to manage and thrive through the
storm begin to measure (weigh) the key metrics in your business. Many
successful performers will choose a specific time each week to do this.
During this weekly meeting you may consider reviewing the past week in
· Sales (income)
· Outgoings/ Expenditure
· Cash balances in bank
· Leads Generated
· Cash Flow
9. RYS X 1 % – Raise Your Standards by 1 % – Kaizan.
‘If you were to improve your performance daily by 1 % you wouldn’t
know yourself in a year’.
John Boyle. Founder of Boyle Sports.
One of the most exhilarating experiences I had was attending a 4 day Tony
Robbins seminar in London some years ago. It was four days of almost 14
hours a day of high-energy, high-content stuff. I took folder loads of notes.
Sometime after my return, a client of mine put me on the spot and asked me
to summarise the seminar in one sentence. After some reflection, it occurred
to me that Robbins main message was “Raise Your Standards”.
you were to identify those standards that impact your life most forcibly, and if
you were to begin to raise them by 1% on a constant basis – you would be
beyond recognition in just three months.
Ray O’Connor, founder and creator of the word famous Connemarathon, is
a great example of the law of RYS 1%. Ray runs several marathons a year
now in incredibly fast times and has completed a race of 100 miles.
Yet I remember Ray chain smoking through my seminars. He told me that
when he made the choice to begin running, he could not complete a 400
metre circuit of Dangan without pausing for a breather. But metre by metre,
over a period of time, he extended his stamina, speed and endurance.
You too, could choose to live the law of RYS 1%. You could:
1. Become more aware daily of the choices you are making.
2. Take the first steps on a fitness journey of a thousand miles.
3. Spend more time in the company of the right people and eliminate the
doomers and gloomers.
4. Clarify where you are; where you are going; and how best to get there.
5. Organise yourself better.
6. Transform your internal and external vocabulary by adding just one
empowering word a day.
7. Become an outstanding problem solver.
8. Learn from Weight Watchers.
9. Do Kaizan – the Japanese word for Continuous Improvement.
10. All you need is Smácht.
“Any old Gubán can get home on a calm day. It take bottle and
brains and a bundle of Smácht to find your way home in a storm”.
Stiofain O Maille.
Smácht is the Irish work for ‘discipline’ or ‘control’ or ‘shape’. And Smácht
is the principle key success factor for underpinning any achievement.
With Smácht, you can virtually move mountains. Without it, your goals,
dreams and aspirations lack potency, precision and passion.
Jim Rohn put it best when he said ‘We must all suffer one of two things:
the pain of discipline or the pain of regret. Discipline weights ounces.
Regret weights tons’.
In conclusion, we cannot legislate for the wind and the sea no more
than we can for the economy or the recession. What we can legislate
for is how we react and respond to the circumstances and situation that
life confronts us with – we can choose our attitude. In the words of Viktor
Frankl “Everything can be taken from a man or women but one thing; the
last of the human freedoms – to choose ones attitude in any given set
of circumstances, to choose one’s own way”.
PS. Free Bonus.
11. Understanding the Power of Questions to Instantly Change Your State.
‘Questions are the answers. In order to change the quality of your
life, change the quality of your answers’.
For a start try these:
1. How can I Live more fully today?
2. How can I Love more passionately and openly today?
3. What can I Learn that will enrich me and all those around me today?
4. How can I Lead more courageously today?
5. What will be my Legacy be? Will you choose to be remembered as an example or a warning?
“How to Stop Worrying and Start Living” Dale Carnegie
“Awaken the Giant Within” Tony Robbins
“Unlimited Power” Tony Robbins
“The Seven Spiritual Laws if Success” Deepak Chopra
“Eat That Frog” Brian Tracy
“Fell The Fear and Do It Anyway” Susan Jeffers
“The Power of Positive Thinking” Norman Vincent Peale
“First Things First” Steven Covey
“Mans Search For Meaning” Viktor Frankl
About the Author.
Padraic O Máille is a professional speaker, trainer and facilitator and is
the creator of Smácht, a training and consulting business based in
Padraic has one single focus – to inspire you to realise more of your
potential. In this respect, he has helped and learned, from many of
Ireland’s most successful business people, executives and sports
His keynote speeches, talks and seminars are customised and tailored
for each audience. They are described as “inspiring, entertaining,
uplifting and motivational”.
Some of his talks and seminars include:
Managing Through a Storm – 9 Proactive Strategies to Creating a
Winning Attitude – Irrespective of the Recession, the Economy or
Marketing Through a Storm – 24 Powerful Strategies to Get and Retain
Customers Faster and Easier that you Ever Thought Possible.
Selling Through a Storm – 9 Great Ways to Sell More, Faster and
Easier in Tough Markets.
“Your Husband is a Crap Runner” – 30 Ways to Motivate Yourself
and Others in Challenging Times.
‘The Smácht Change Programme’ is a 12 month intensive peer
coaching programme run throughout Ireland that is transforming
the way people are achieving results.
Call today for full information on booking Padraic to speak at your
next conference or meeting. Visit www.omaille.ie, email firstname.lastname@example.org,
phone 00353 91 865340, or write to O Máille Group, Lady Gregory
House, 49 Dominick Street, Galway Ireland.
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